In the past, it’s been hard for me to deal with this concept. It not only applies to relationships, but friendships and even sometimes family members. There comes a time when you have to let go of the negative people that hold you back in life. The people that don’t see things the way you do — the ones who try to belittle your dreams, mock your big ideas, discourage you from your passions.
We all have our own personal struggles to deal with in life. Why bring around more negativity than what already surrounds us in the world? It’s important to have a core support system surrounding us.
For some reason, we always view the past better than it really was. We often wonder “what if” or “if I had just paid a little more attention, things wouldn’t have turned out this way.” Nothing is farther from the truth. People come and go in our lives, and each person who was there was MEANT to be there. Even further, each person who has left was MEANT to leave. I genuinely believe that life is a series of lessons learned through our interactions and relationships with people. Relationships allow us to reveal our vulnerable side and push ourselves out of our comfort zones. We learn attributes we never even knew we had — positive and negative. Bottom line, have faith that if someone is no longer in your life, it is FOR. A. REASON. Don’t sit around hoping, waiting and wishing for something to come back to you. If it’s meant to be, it WILL be… on God’s timetable, not yours.
I personally struggle with maintaining friendships. I get so wrapped up in life — I’m a slave to my job, the gym and my studies. I still have fun when I go out and see people, but it’s not as often as I’d like. I made a goal to create more meaningful relationships and build on the friends that have stuck by my side (the ones that really matter). But I also made a goal to let go of the people that are no longer beneficial. They serve no purpose, really… and I’m saying this in the nicest way possible. Sometimes we outgrow friendships. When you go to lunch and the only common ground is the food you’re ordering — it’s time to move on. Surround yourself with people who inspire you, who believe in your dreams and ultimately people you look up to on a personal or work-related level.
This is a tough one. We can’t really disown our family. However, we can distance ourselves from the negative people. I’m not saying we should all just stop answering the phone when “that” person calls, but if your conversations are constantly dragging you down and sucking the life out of you, maybe limit the time you spend per week talking to them. Luckily, I don’t have any family members like this… uh oh, does that mean I’M that family member (bulging eye emoji) 😉
Be strong enough to walk away from the things in your life that no longer serve a purpose. Relationships, hobbies, even your job. I know it’s easier said than done, but if you’re truly waking up unhappy on most days, it’s time to reconsider where that unhappiness is coming from. Is it coming from within? From our relationships? From that job you dread going to?
Reevaluate, never stop growing, and most importantly: never give up on your dreams.