You’ll Fail and No One Will Notice

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We’re all scared of failure, whether it’s in the form of rejection, loss of pride or embarrassment. If you’re interested in someone, I’m sure you can relate to staring at a text message for 10 minutes, deciding whether to send it or not. You change what you’ve written 15 times as if the other person will actually notice a difference. Why? You’re scared of being rejected. If you’re in the workforce, I’m sure there are times when something has bothered you or you have a great idea for a new project. Rather than addressing it with your boss, you choose to remain silent. Why? You’re scared that your proposal will get shot down or your problem will be regarded as insignificant and a waste of time. Either way, you’re scared of being embarrassed.

Our brains react the same way to fear whenever it’s presented to us, whether we’re approaching someone we find attractive, sending the first text, asking for a raise or stepping foot in the gym for the first time. We’re scared that we will fail.

Fear is a learned behavior. We learn to be scared of situations based on previous occurrences that have happened in our lives. Perhaps you’re scared of initiating conversation with someone because you were rejected before. You’re scared to start a new diet plan because the last one failed.

We all have the mentality that we have something to lose if we take a chance. In other words, we build up the worst-case scenario in our minds. We’re scared to quit that job that we’re so utterly unhappy with for fear that we’ll run out of money. We’re scared to step foot in the gym or switch up our routines because we will look like idiots if we don’t know how to properly perform an exercise. We’re scared to start eating healthy because surely we will hate it and will revert back to our old ways and gain even more weight.
We would rather avoid failure at all costs than taste success. 

I found this quote in a magazine the other day:
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I laugh in the face of failure… Mwahaha 😛

Think about that for a minute. Everyone is so concerned with their own failures and embarassments; do you really think they’re focused on yours? In the worst case scenario, those who are close to you will learn of your momentary failure, but they will soon forget. Failure should not be seen as a roadblock, but rather a learning process that helps us grow. Ultimately, failure takes our relationships to greater depths and our dreams to new heights. If you didn’t fail, you’d keep doing the same things over and over without seeing results. If you NEVER fail, you don’t learn. And if you don’t learn, you don’t succeed.

Start weighing your risks and their rewards. The greater the risk, the greater the reward. If you fail, so what? At least you’ve tried. And you’ll never have to wonder “what if?”

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“I Dream… of Simpler Things”

“I dream… of simpler things.
I would like to return to the days when there weren’t so many choices,
distractions, and complications.” -Cori from OliveToRun

As I was studying catching up on blog posts this morning, this really caught my attention. Shout out to my girl, Cori — her blog is awesome!

People always tell me that I’m an old soul. I, too, dream of simpler things. I believe I was meant to be born into a generation that wasn’t so focused on communication and constant connection via technology. Yes, I do have a blog. Yes, I love social media. Yes, I’m on my phone a lot. So where do we draw the line? When does technology start impacting our personal relationships and quality of life?

I’d love to live in a world where if a guy was interested in you, he couldn’t simply “like” your picture on Facebook and expect something to come of it. Or “poke” you. (Just…. stop. So creepy.) If you’re interested in a girl… TALK TO HER.

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Hi. I’m right here. Girls aren’t that scary, I promise.

Or how about a world where we didn’t sit on our phones at the dinner table?

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(Bussssted)

Or the days when 8-year-olds didn’t have iPhones.

Or a world where you actually ENJOYED dinner instead of taking pictures of it. (Unless you can justify your addiction by having a health & fitness blog 😉)

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What about when you’re on vacation and want to capture every moment? That beautiful sunset, the gorgeous mountains, the breathtaking view.

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Or when self-worth wasn’t based on how many likes we got on our pictures?

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Oh my gosh I didn’t get 100 likes… *deletes picture*

Don’t get me wrong, I fall victim to these traps from time to time (which is why I have pictures to show you). I’m human and, frankly, I LOVE taking pictures. Obviously if a sunset is pretty, I’m going to take a picture of it. However, I try to live in the moment and enjoy my surroundings. I love having real, in depth conversations and I truly enjoy the company of the people I surround myself with.

Technology becomes a problem when we allow it to interfere with living presently in the moment. Must we capture every single second of every single day? Why can’t we just simply enjoy the moment? The pictures never do justice compared to our memories anyway.

Bottom line: There are times when technology is appropriate and times when it is not. It’s important to understand where to draw the line. Don’t let technology get in the way of your most important relationships. Take pictures, but don’t let it distract you from taking in your surroundings and enjoying the beauty that’s actually in front of you. If you’re at dinner, focus on enjoying the conversation. Don’t let the amount of likes you get on a picture define your self-worth. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL and no one needs to double tap a picture to tell you that. If you’re interested in someone, approach them.

Life is too short! Let’s focus our attention on fully and presently enjoying it. 

Being Comfortable in Your Own Skin

In case you haven’t come to the realization yet, I’ll fill you in on a few little secrets.

I’m not perfect (well, this isn’t really a secret), but…

I cry.

I overanalyze everything.

I’m a perfectionist.

I get anxiety.

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I forget to relax.

I get stressed out easily.

Some days I’m lazy.

Some days I feel bad about the way I look.

Sometimes I get jealous about things others have that I don’t.

Couldn’t we sit here all day and name all the “negative” qualities about ourselves? I say “negatives” in quotations because most of them are self perceived. Often we’re our own worst critics; chances are no one notices your negative qualities. They focus on the positives. They focus on what makes you who you are. That’s why they like you.

I’m not perfect and I have no desire to be. I’m learning to be comfortable in my own skin. Sure I have negative qualities, but more importantly….

I’m weird.

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(I’d like to consider myself the cool kind of weird versus the creepy kind of weird. Is there a difference? Definitely.)

I’m adventurous.

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I laugh.

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I sing (quite horribly, might I add.)

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I have funny accents that account for 90% of my dialogue with friends and family. Meet Don Pablo.

(This is what my friends & I text each other daily. I guess our relationship is getting pretty serious, folks.)  

I have no shortage of ugly faces.

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I can laugh at myself.

I have a huge heart and I genuinely love people.

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(Or I just like jumping on them…)

I go out of my way to make sure others are happy.

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I have big dreams and I’ll stop at nothing to make them happen.

And CLEARLY I’m not afraid to embarrass myself. Two months ago, I would have never published a post with all these pictures. But you know what, who cares? Life’s too short. This is the real me. And if by reading this post you begin to think about all the positive qualities you possess, I accomplished everything I ever hoped for :-). If embarrassing myself makes your life a little better, I’m perfectly OK with that.

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When you pass, you will be remembered for your positive qualities and the impact you made on people’s lives, so quit being so hard on yourself. Learn to love yourself. Be comfortable in your own skin. You’re the only YOU out there and that’s pretty remarkable. Embrace it.

Lots to Celebrate!

It’s Mondaaaaaaaay! Only 4 more days til the weekend… HA. In case you’re feeling a little down about your Monday, maybe I’ll be lucky enough to share some of my happiness with you. Here are some reasons I’m happy today:

1. I filed my intent to graduate. I will officially be a functioning member of society come December. Watch out world! 🙂

2. My mother sent me this amazing progress picture this morning. She’s down almost 20 pounds from consistent diet and exercise. You should head on over to my Facebook page and let her know how hot she’s lookin’.

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3. I ate Chipotle. Enough said.

4. I had the opportunity to create a nutrition plan for my best friend, Elizabeth. We actually started lifting weights together last summer and would print out BodyBuilding.com exercises to bring to the gym. Such newbies!

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5. My dad presented me with a fun challenge this morning:

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Once we hit $100, we’re going to have a fun night out and eat, drink and be merry. I’m so excited! This is such great motivation. Pick a partner and try it out!

Happiness is contagious. I hope my happiness made you smile, even just a little bit. If not, I’ll leave you with this:

 

And if THAT didn’t make you smile, let me know when you find your soul. Totally kidding! Kind of ;-).

What made your heart smile today? 

What Makes You Happy?

Have you ever really sat down and thought about the answer to that question? After all, it’s what we’re all in the pursuit of, isn’t it? Heck, it’s even in our RIGHTS. But many of us are “the grass is always greener” people. We have this belief in our heads that there’s always something better out there waiting for us.

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A better girlfriend or boyfriend. A better body. More money. A better job. “I’ll be better off once I have these things,” that little voice inside your head tells you. “Once I have the perfect (job/body/boyfriend or girlfriend), THEN I can be happy.”

This mindset stems from insecurities. I’ll give you an example of how I used to think about myself in this health and fitness journey we all seem to be on:

I was constantly in search of the “perfect” body, whatever that may be. Of course, it’s different for everyone and if you asked me to describe to you I probably would say something like – flat stomach, defined muscles. Wouldn’t nearly every girl? So I embarked on this journey with this phantom picture in my head of what I “should” look like. What society tells girls is “pretty” or “in.”

However, nothing was ever good enough. I always wanted more. Why weren’t the results coming fast enough? Sure, I could see muscles in places I never had before but why weren’t they more defined? Why did I still have cellulite? What I didn’t realize all along was that I WAS PERFECT THE WAY I WAS. No one was telling me what I “should” look like. It was an image that I formed in my own head and instead of being happy with my progress, I was always looking at the greener grass on the other side of the hill. “I’ll be happy when I can see my abs.” “I’ll be happy when I look like this girl.”

Did I ever become happy with the “grass is always greener” mindset? No. Because I realized there is no final stop on this journey. It is lifelong. Progress doesn’t define me. Abs don’t define me. Living a long, healthy life does. I do this for ME now — to be able to play with my children when I’m older and my grandchildren after that. To still be active in my 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, 70’s +. I’m embracing my journey now rather than focusing on the destination because frankly, that destination will never come. 

Learn to be happy right now. With yourself. In your current situation.

Happiness is right in front of you. When you learn to appreciate your surroundings, your job, the people in your life, you have found joy. NO one can take that away from you. 

So, here are just a few things that bring true JOY to my life each and that I appreciate every day:

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  • My friends
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  • My faith
  • Being healthy and able to work out
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  • My body, just the way it is
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  • My creativity, gifts and talents
  • Having enough food to keep me healthy
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  • Water 😛
  • My education
  • My internship experiences
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  • Meeting new people
  • Traveling to new places
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  • Anddddd… Giraffes 😛
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What makes you happy? 🙂