We’re all scared of failure, whether it’s in the form of rejection, loss of pride or embarrassment. If you’re interested in someone, I’m sure you can relate to staring at a text message for 10 minutes, deciding whether to send it or not. You change what you’ve written 15 times as if the other person will actually notice a difference. Why? You’re scared of being rejected. If you’re in the workforce, I’m sure there are times when something has bothered you or you have a great idea for a new project. Rather than addressing it with your boss, you choose to remain silent. Why? You’re scared that your proposal will get shot down or your problem will be regarded as insignificant and a waste of time. Either way, you’re scared of being embarrassed.
Our brains react the same way to fear whenever it’s presented to us, whether we’re approaching someone we find attractive, sending the first text, asking for a raise or stepping foot in the gym for the first time. We’re scared that we will fail.
Fear is a learned behavior. We learn to be scared of situations based on previous occurrences that have happened in our lives. Perhaps you’re scared of initiating conversation with someone because you were rejected before. You’re scared to start a new diet plan because the last one failed.
We all have the mentality that we have something to lose if we take a chance. In other words, we build up the worst-case scenario in our minds. We’re scared to quit that job that we’re so utterly unhappy with for fear that we’ll run out of money. We’re scared to step foot in the gym or switch up our routines because we will look like idiots if we don’t know how to properly perform an exercise. We’re scared to start eating healthy because surely we will hate it and will revert back to our old ways and gain even more weight.
We would rather avoid failure at all costs than taste success.
I laugh in the face of failure… Mwahaha 😛
Think about that for a minute. Everyone is so concerned with their own failures and embarassments; do you really think they’re focused on yours? In the worst case scenario, those who are close to you will learn of your momentary failure, but they will soon forget. Failure should not be seen as a roadblock, but rather a learning process that helps us grow. Ultimately, failure takes our relationships to greater depths and our dreams to new heights. If you didn’t fail, you’d keep doing the same things over and over without seeing results. If you NEVER fail, you don’t learn. And if you don’t learn, you don’t succeed.
Start weighing your risks and their rewards. The greater the risk, the greater the reward. If you fail, so what? At least you’ve tried. And you’ll never have to wonder “what if?”