Social media exposes us to a world we would otherwise know nothing about. We’re berated with photos and Facebook statuses and Twitter updates that expose us to what used to be the secret lives of others. Any given day on these social networking sites, you come across posts bragging about accomplishments, cute pictures with significant others and the “perfect” family — the clean house, the cute puppy, the family traditions and cookie cutter siblings. We can’t help but romanticize these situations.
It’s human nature to want what you don’t have. We’re all victim to it. Whether it’s the skinny girl in the gym with the small spandex or the woman with the perfect husband and children who seems to have it all figured out, we’re left feeling a bit insecure. How can we not? Some days it’s hard enough to get out of bed and go to the gym, let alone apply make up and look super cute.
Let me remind you of one very, very important detail — People only put out there what they WANT you to see. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. There isn’t a perfect family. There isn’t one person in this world who has it all figured out.
So how can we simply ignore these messages when we’re constantly bombarded with them? Well, unless you’re willing to delete all social media and stay indoors at all times, it’s nearly impossible. But we can change the way we think about ourselves. Just because the girl at the gym has a 6-pack and a to-die-for body, she is not any better than you. The couple who always posts the cute pictures? You have no idea the actual depth of their relationship. Stop romanticizing and start focusing on what you do have.
Every one of us has a set of positive attributes. What do you like about yourself? Are you gifted at your work? Do you go out of your way to help others? Do you strive to be the best person you can be on a daily basis? All of these are amazing accomplishments. You are perfect the way that you are, just as you were made to be. Start focusing on the talents you’ve been given instead of those you have not and you will live a much happier, fulfilled life.
There is no person better at being you than you are. Shift your focus to what you do have: friends, family, a job you’re proud of. Having confidence in who you are allows you to break down the thresholds of comparison and ultimately, unhappiness. Being who you are brings so much joy to others. Stop comparing. Stop romanticizing. Stop judging. You are incredibly made just the way you are.